Have you ever wondered what real love really means? It is easy to be swept away by images of romance in movies or the sweet words of popular songs. However, true love is much deeper—it is a way of life. In this post, we will explore the simple yet powerful idea of real love, a love that does not depend on feelings alone but is shown in actions. This love is at the heart of Christianity and can bring peace and purpose to anyone’s life.
Understanding Real Love
When people talk about love, they often mean the excitement of a new relationship or feelings that make your heart rush. But real love, sometimes called “agape” love, goes far beyond those strong but fleeting emotions. Agape love is a self-giving love that does not expect anything in return. It is unconditional and ever-present. This kind of love is not built solely on what happens between people; it is rooted in a deep connection with God, who is the source of all love.
Agape love asks us to consider others before ourselves and to make choices that benefit those around us, even when it is not easy. Once we begin to understand this love, we see that it changes our thoughts, our actions, and the relationships we build with others.
The Role of Patience and Kindness
Two important qualities that stand out in a life led by agape love are patience and kindness. These traits might seem simple, but they are the building blocks of lasting, true love.
Patience means taking a moment to understand someone else. It means giving others the space they need and not rushing to judge or react. For example, if you are in a long line at the store or stuck in traffic, patience helps you stay calm. It allows you to see the situation from another’s perspective. Instead of feeling irritated, you might offer a smile or a kind word, making both your day and someone else’s day a little brighter.
Kindness goes hand in hand with patience. Kindness is about doing something friendly or generous without expecting anything back. It could be as small as holding the door open for a stranger or as significant as volunteering your time to help someone in need. Acts of kindness remind everyone involved that the world can be a warm and caring place.
Together, patience and kindness create a foundation on which you can build a life filled with real love. They help you see others with compassion and create an environment where everyone can thrive.
Moving Beyond Jealousy and Pride
In our daily lives, it is natural sometimes to feel envy or pride. These feelings can come when we compare ourselves to others or when we focus too much on our own achievements. However, jealousy and pride can be barriers to experiencing and showing true love.
True love asks us to celebrate what is good in others instead of feeling jealous. When you see someone succeed, try to feel happy for them instead of comparing it to your own situation. This shift in perspective can lead to stronger, more supportive relationships.
Pride, on the other hand, makes us believe that we are above others. But real love is humble and understands that every person has unique gifts and strengths. When you approach life without pride, you become more open to learning from everyone around you. You start to see life as a journey to grow together in kindness and understanding.
Love in Everyday Life
Real love is not just an abstract idea; it is something you can practice every day. It is found in the small choices and actions that show you care. For instance, when a friend disappoints you, love is the strength that helps you forgive rather than hold onto hurt. When someone is struggling, love is the gentle word of encouragement or a small gesture that says, “I’m here for you.”
Living with real love means choosing to be understanding and supportive even when life is challenging. It means recognizing that every person you meet is important and deserves respect. When you work on being more patient, kind, and forgiving, you help create a community where everyone feels valued.
One way to start living this way is to pay close attention to how you respond to difficulties. Ask yourself, “How would I like to be treated if the roles were reversed?” This small question can help guide your actions and remind you that real love is about caring for others first.
Learning to Love Like God
A beautiful part of the idea of real love is that it comes from a relationship with God. In Christianity, God’s love for us is seen as a perfect example of how we should love one another. Unlike human love, which can sometimes be conditional or changeable, God’s love is constant and always available.
By connecting with God through prayer and reading the Bible, we invite His love into our lives. This connection helps us understand that to love well, we must be willing to grow and change over time. Jesus showed us what this kind of love looks like. He cared for people regardless of their faults, always reaching out to help, forgive, and support them without expecting anything in return.
For those who are curious about Christianity, the journey toward understanding and experiencing God’s love can start with small steps. It might be as simple as spending a few minutes each day in quiet prayer or opening your heart to learn more about the teachings that have guided millions of people throughout the ages.
Taking Small Steps Every Day
You do not have to make big changes overnight. Real love is built in the small steps you take each day. Start by noticing moments when you can be more patient or when you can offer a kind word to someone who might need it. These actions, although they seem small, have the power to change lives—especially your own.
Even if you feel unsure or lost at times, know that you are not alone in this journey. Every day is a new chance to practice real love and to see the positive effects it brings. Surround yourself with supportive people who inspire you to grow and to share love openly.
A Simple Invitation
Whether you are new to Christianity or simply curious about its way of life, try embracing the idea of real love. Let patience, kindness, humility, and understanding guide your interactions. As you take these steps, you may discover that love is not just something you feel—it is something you live every day.
Real love has the power to transform your heart, your relationships, and even your community. It is a path that brings peace, healing, and joy, inviting us to live a life that is bright with hope and genuine care for one another.
May you find comfort and strength in learning how to love as God intends. As you continue on your journey, remember that every kind act, every moment of patience, and every step toward humility brings you closer to a life filled with true, everlasting love.
This is based on the sermon Pastor Shantel shared on Sunday, February 16, 2025 – Real Love.
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